Dating During the Holidays...Part 2

So you have a new love this Holiday season...Great! Now what?! Here are some tips to help you through your first Holiday Season together:

1. Gifts.

This is a tough category for many new couples who may be in the early stages of dating. Casual dating does not necessarily equal a gift, but if you are exclusive and committed, then yes, a gift is appropriate. This does not mean that it had to be large and extravagant. Something thoughtful, but something they would appreciate. Maybe they have mentioned a gadget or trinket they covet, a new book by her favorite author, his favorite bottle of scotch are all good choices. Even better are tickets to an event that you two can share together. Whether it's a sporting event or a Broadway show, an event you can share together will leave you both with memories that last a lifetime. What not to give? Gym memberships and exercise equipment will always backfire on you. Equally, lingerie may send the wrong message about your relationship and where it is going. Men, when in doubt, a little blue box with a white ribbon is always a safe bet! ;)

2. Family Gatherings.

When contemplating whether to invite your new significant other to family gatherings, consider the following: Is he/she going to be the only non-family member present? Is it a formal sit-down event? An odd family tradition that will make him/her uncomfortable? Will they have to sit through 6 hours of grampas stories or the opening of every cousins gifts one.by.one? Maybe let them pass on this event. Is it a cocktail party with both family and friends? Then this may be more appropriate for your new sweetie!

3. The Office Party.

As excited as you may be to show Gladys from accounting your new stud, this may not be the appropriate time or place. Again, some key factors to consider: Is your company budget conscious? Then a date may not be welcome by the big-wigs. Will your date get along with your co-workers? Remember, you will be the only one they know, so make sure they can mingle without being strapped to your side the whole night! Remember this is a work event, so if your sweetie tends to get a little out of control when punch is involved, you may not want to include him just yet, as he IS a reflection of you.....and that promotion you've had your eye on!

4. Differing Beliefs.

If you’re seeing someone that has a different religious belief, holiday dating can highlight conflicts in your spiritual thought process/beliefs. The key to avoiding problems is to be open and honest about your comfort level at all times. Don’t feel obligated to go to your date’s house of worship if you feel uncomfortable partaking in the religious rituals. As long as you are open and communicate your concerns you both can have a better time getting through the holiday season. It may also allow you the opportunity to see if you are both compatible in this area and if your relationship has the potential to last.

5. Work, Work and more Work!

This is also the time of year when a large majority of us will get a few weeks off, but until then, we work 'round the clock to get all of our projects done before then. Or we have end of year reports that need to be turned in before the New Year. This adds a whole other level of stress to not only the Holiday Season, but also a new relationship. This is good test of your lasting potential. Remember to be open and honest with your sweetie and let them know that is has nothing to do with them, and soon they will have you all to themselves!

Happy New Year from your friends at Great Expectations. May 2011 bring you all the Joy, Love and Happiness you deserve!