Is he the RIGHT ONE?

Choosing the right partner is so very important to your happiness because it can affect every other aspect of your life. So if you are in a relationship that wish to move to the next level, the first thing you have to decide is if the person you're with is the "right one".

Before we decide if he's your right guy, let's find out what kind of man is at the top of your love list. In other words, who represents your number ten? Close your eyes and remember him. He's that one man from your past that makes your heart skip a beat when you think of him no matter how many years have gone by. Your "10" may have been a fleeting romance. Maybe he was your childhood sweetheart or that guy that broke your heart last year. When you think of him, the feeling you get deep in your heart is now your definition of a ten. Knowing the answer to this question is the beginning step on the road to recognizing your mister right.

So you've met someone you like. The first of many questions you need to ask yourself is "what number is this guy on your new scale?" If he ranks somewhere between 8 and 10 he is definitely in the running! Do you have that much sought after combination of a solid friendship as well as chemistry? How would you like to spend your time with him? Can you imagine yourself doing everyday things such as shopping, dining, dancing, traveling or sleeping with person? The absolute truth is that everyone just wants to be with someone they can laugh with, cry with, tell their secrets to and love with all their heart (not just s part of it). True Love is a friendship caught on fire! When the flames of passion start to fade over time only true friendship will keep the relationship on solid ground.

The way a man commits to his friends can tell you about how he commits in other aspects of his friendships. Does he have a lot of friends he's know for years? If he has a lot of childhood friends that's a great sign and may just have a "keeper" on your hands! Also look closely at his relationship with his parents or siblings. A man that is strong in this area usually is able to build a strong family of their own. Is he the Ying to your Yang? If his strengths complement your weaknesses, then you're on the right track. Do you respect who he is as a person? Is he a giver or a taker in the relationship? Does he respect who you are as a person and what you've accomplished in your life? What do your friends think of him? Sometimes they can see what you can't! Make sure to ask the dog too; your furry friend can tell instantly if he's right for you. Don't forget the moral, ethical, religious and family values. These are our core principles and we all need to be with someone who sees the world in a similar way to us on at least some key points.

So is he the Right Guy? You now have some great tools to help you find your answer!

Sheryel Aschfort is a relationship expert and the Director of Great Expectations Boca Raton.

Original Article from MODE LIFESTYLE Magazine, Jul/Aug 2009.